Making Friends

Making friends as a kid was easy. You sat next to someone in class, and by Friday you were best friends. As an adult, nobody assigns you a seat.

This is the practical corner of the site. Less doom, more do. I collect the best advice I can find on how grown adults actually build new friendships, and I add my own playbook from years of hosting.

The single most useful thing I've learned is that you have to host. Waiting for invitations stops working past a certain age. So I wrote a full guide on how to host a friendship gathering with fifteen people and two hours. It's the closest thing I have to a magic trick.

You'll also find pieces here on putting your phone down, on why texting isn't enough, and on the awkward truth that making friends as an adult is hard. It is. But it's a skill, not a personality trait. Which means you can get better at it.

Pick an article below and try one small thing this week.